Do you wonder if it’s possible to forgive someone who will never change?
Maybe you have a father, or a mother, or a spouse or a sibling—somebody that’s close to you and that you deeply love and care about—who engages in some sort of harmful or negative activities...?
By wanting that individual to change, you’re only perpetuating your experience of suffering. Life isn’t about changing the people around you... It’s about loving yourself. The more you love yourself, the less you’re focused on the people around you and their behaviors.
How do you begin to love yourself so that you can forgive someone who will never be different and will never change?
Many of you believe you've done things that may be deemed unforgivable. Maybe you hurt someone or you stood by and allowed something to occur that caused harm...
You can't hold yourself hostage for the love and the awareness that you didn't have at the time of the incident. You must evaluate yourself based on the experiences that you've had up until this point instead of based on who you were when the original incident occurred.
Holding on to the guilt, the shame and the unworthiness that you're holding within you, is not serving you and it's not serving the other individual involved either. You must cultivate the courage to let yourself off the hook. How do you let go of the guilt and forgive yourself?
Are you still carrying within you the burdens of the past? Things that have happened to you that you simply just can't forgive or move on from?
As much as you may be justified in holding onto these things... In actuality, it's just further keeping you trapped in limitation. As long as you're holding onto the slights or the traumas of the past, you can't be available for the love and the blessings that are arising in the present and the glorious life that is emerging in the future.
You must cultivate the ability to experience and feel everything you have to inside of you around what has happened, so that you can get to a place of neutrality and so that you can abide in this ever-present expansion that is wanting to unfold deep within you.
The majority of choices we make (as it pertains to relationship post-divorce or post-breakup) are unconscious... However, evolution of awareness and consciousness in energy allows us to choose differently.
Allow yourself to become aware of where you are choosing from and ultimately follow that which feels the most expansive.